We went to a park district volleyball game last night that 3 of my adult children just starting playing on this year.
As they started playing I heard my voice automatically complementing the good serve, encouraging hustling and correcting improper form.
This is the first season in over 10 years that I haven’t coached volleyball for at least one team. Most years I coached two. So 18 teams later I found myself unable to contain the teaching part of me. I got a few looks from some of the players and numerous eye rolls from my kids so I wrapped my arms around myself and grabbed my sleeves like a straight jacket to contain this part of me. After rocking back and forth in the stands, knowing this was the first time they have played together without a practice, I was forced that coaching voice into submission.
But that is not how I am wired. It is not in my nature to just let things be. When I see something that is not as good as it can be, I want to improve it, correct it. Especially in volleyball when I have had so much experience improving struggling players.
So I have two choices.
1. Go next week and struggle or
2. Not go at all.
Actually, I have three choices. I can go near the end of their season when they have gelled a bit as a team and gain their identity, all on their own. So I can still enjoy watching them but not go into convulsions trying to contain myself.
Or I can change my nature. But I don’t think I am supposed to do that. There are things about myself that I have changed throughout my life. Majorly changed. But I don’t think it is one of those things. Right now any way.
Have you had any experience like that?