I have heard multiple “holy,” “religious,” people talk about Jesus offering a life of abundance, yet they are same ones who talk about carrying the burden, suffering and sacrifice as the central message of salvation. But it is built into our human nature to avoid pain and go toward pleasure. I think it is important that we properly define pleasure. One definition reads: “a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment.” Some people think things will bring us that happy satisfaction that will come from stuff. Others try to gain pleasure from people. I think pleasure comes from having our basic human needs met. According to Tony Robbins, we have 4 basic needs that, when they are met, mean we survive and 2 more that when they are met help us thrive and feel fulfilled in our lives. The 4 basic needs are: our need for certainty, our need for variety, our need for significance and our need for love. If any of those needs aren’t met, we are in pain, so, as we are hard-wired to avoid pain, we find something to escape that pain.
Food physically helps me stop thinking how we cannot pay another bill this month, how we bounced another check, how we cannot do that thing because we have no money, how I feel when I remember some the things that were done to me. Food has been my escape. Food helps me takes my mind off the pain for awhile and it brings me pleasure. So in my healing, I need to repurpose the role food has in my life. Food is nourishment. So the question I am asking now is “How can I enjoy providing my body the nourishment it needs while trusting even more God and His plan of sheer goodness for me?” (why not kill 2 birds with one stone?)
I USED TO THINK: Food was the easiest, best way to escape the pain I feel in my life.
I NOW UNDERSTAND: Food is nourishment that my body needs. If I am feeling so much pain that I need to escape, I need to stop the pattern and figure out what I am believing that I feel my needs are not being met.
What role has food played in your life?